There are very few parents that rub their hands with glee when a child is born and say "let's see what we can do to make this child's life a misery"
It is more, that some adults become parents themselves without resolving their own personal issues, perhaps they didn't know how to or they simply didn't want to. When this happens it can lead to parents being less than ideal with their parenting skills which can in turn lead to issues in a person's adult life.
A child will have both positive and negative experiences throughout his/her development. Eric Berne stated that "a child needs "good enough" parenting in order to thrive, he saw the negative experiences as bad pennies in a pile of straight pennies, which represent good experiences. Provided there are enough straight pennies the pile will stand. Too many bent pennies and it will collapse.
Common issues that can arise from ineffective parenting are;
- People pleasing
- Lack of assertiveness - inability to say no
- Irritability and outbursts of anger
- Inability to handle emotions
- Lack of confidence
- Low self-esteem
- Strong feelings of inadequacy
- Inability to trust
- Problem relationships
- Sexual dysfunction
- Food/ Drug/Alcohol Abuse
- Low or over emotional control
- Panic attacks
- Fears & Phobias
- Sleep disturbances