What therapy do I offer for abuse ?
I am a PICT (Parks Inner Child Therapy) practitioner.
Parks Inner Child Therapy (PICT) is a powerful and versatile visualisation-based therapy model that aids rapid and positive change.
PICT was originally created to specifically help people recover from the trauma and damage of sexual, physical and emotional abuse during childhood (such harm may have been caused deliberately, caused by neglect, or by inadequate parenting which was not intentional)
PICT is a directional model following a flexible structure adapted to the client’s individual needs. As a practitioner, I can assist you with the unloading process (the initial talking through of past events) should you need it before moving onto the process of deep and lasting change work.
Benefits to clients
The most significant feature of PICT is that it can bring about change gently because there is no need to disclose any details of traumatic events. PICT addresses the effects of the trauma (whether the trauma is in conscious memory or not) rather than focusing on the detail of an event and therefore allows the option for clients to retain their privacy, dignity and to work comfortably.
PICT produces measurable results and contains thorough, quick and effective techniques to bring about beneficial and lasting change.PICT therapy can be relaxing and satisfying, with times for light-heartedness to counterbalance the more serious moments.
How PICT works
When adults with good reasoning power find they are unable to resolve ongoing problems they can often be heard to complain in frustration, ‘I know I shouldn’t feel (think/do) this, but I still do!’ In other words, their logic is at odds with their feelings and their feelings seem to be winning the battle. This is usually a depressing experience for people who want to be in charge of their life and they often blame themselves, feel guilty and call themselves ‘weak’ or ‘useless’.
So, why are people with good reasoning power trapped in an unwanted feeling or behaviour?
PICT teaches that the core beliefs we have about ourselves (our identity), about others or about the world are learned during early childhood, before we are old enough to determine if the information is correct or not. Because this process happens so early on, the information/beliefs we have learned seem more like a basic truth that has always been with us. In other words, it is difficult for a person to think in terms of ‘belief’, it seems much bigger than that – it seems like a truth about identity, i.e. ‘That’s just how I am’, ‘That’s just how life is’.That belief learning process is fine if we have emotionally healthy families who demonstrate good parenting, because then most of our beliefs about self, others or the world will be positive and supportive.
However, when families are dysfunctional or parenting skills are lacking, the beliefs we learn are mistaken and limiting, i.e. I’m not good enough, I can’t get anything right, no one can be trusted, there is no safety, etc. Mistaken beliefs learned during childhood remain active in the background, essentially invisible to us, as they rule our decision making, influence our self esteem, effect our relationships and our ability to motivate ourselves.
Why Parks Inner Child Therapy (PICT) works
Some root causes of problems are tucked away in the unconscious and clients have no idea why they have the problem and consequently how to get rid of it. However, even when clients do have conscious knowledge of root causes, those early experiences are usually surrounded by a great deal of guilt or shame. Those kinds of feelings are very uncomfortable and people tend to avoid looking at them.
PICT teaches that, regardless of the events, because they took place in childhood there is no guilt, blame or shame attached to the child – only to the grown-up who chose to interfere with or mistreat a child.Children accept blame very easily and are certainly encouraged by dysfunctional parents to do so. It is very easy for dysfunctional parents to use their children as objects to project their own feelings of inadequacy and guilt upon. For the most part, children’s mistakes are innocent behaviours committed as they learn the myriad of rules and regulations of life. Children are reliant upon their parents for information of how to safely and appropriately function in life and if parents have not done their job properly children are vulnerable to experience serious mistakes. If parents have failed in their duty of care, the responsibility is theirs. However, because these issues are seldom discussed or examined, children can grow up with a backlog of guilt or shame that is unwarranted.
Working solely through the conscious mind (adult state) or solely through the unconscious mind (partially child and parent) seldom creates the balance or harmony between those states that is needed for full problem resolution. By utilising metaphor and visualisation for the unconscious mind, and appropriate information and guidance for the conscious mind, PICT efficiently bridges the gap and assists clients to painlessly identify and thoroughly resolve issues attached to blame, guilt and shame.
At the conclusion of PICT therapy clients regularly report feeling a sense of completion, a new sense of understanding of how and why they had the problems and a feeling that they now have all the puzzle parts of their lives put back together – ‘My life now makes sense’ and ‘I now feel free to be me’ are common statements.
How Is PICT Different To Other Therapy Models?
PICT has a flexible structure with a clear beginning, middle and end, as well as measurable results. PICT can quickly and gently deal with even the most traumatic experiences because there is no need to reveal painful details. The model is designed to obtain thorough understanding and resolution of problems, rather than leaving gaps that can cause the same problems to resurface later on. It is designed to work quickly whilst creating deep and lasting change; work that would generally take six months to a year using most therapeutic models may on average be completed in ten two hour sessions using PICT.
Sessions can be run weekly, fortnightly or at a schedule to suit you.
There is also the opportunity to experience the therapy over a shorter time frame - typically 5 days - this process is called Quick Change and is suitable for those who live a long distance from the therapist or who simply do not have the free time to attend weekly or fortnightly sessions. Please note an assessment is required to be completed to assess suitability for Quick Change work.